Amputee dating in the UK, for life after limb loss
Above the knee, below the elbow, born without a hand or out of surgery last spring: meet UK singles for whom sockets, liners and stairs are simply part of the day.
An amputee dating site that keeps it in proportion
Losing a limb, or growing up without one, shapes plenty of practical things: how far you walk, which shoes you buy, whether you wear the leg to the pub or leave it at home on a hot day. It does not decide whether you are good company. Disability Dates is a dating site for amputees and other disabled singles across the UK, and that balance comes naturally here.
Mention your amputation in your profile, in your first message or over a drink a fortnight later. Nobody will treat it as a secret you were keeping, and nobody will make it the only thing they ask about.
Limb loss and limb difference
Lower limb
Below the knee, above it, or both legs. Some days the prosthetic stays on from breakfast to bedtime; other days crutches or a chair make more sense.
Upper limb
Hand, arm or shoulder. The everyday workarounds are different, from tying laces to holding hands, and so is how you might choose to show it in photos.
From birth
Congenital limb difference means you have never known another way, and you may be more relaxed about it than anyone you meet. You belong here as much as anyone.
Dating for amputees: photos and your profile
Your photos do a lot of the talking, so choose ones that show the life you actually lead. If you wear a prosthetic, a full-length shot with it on, or a holiday picture in shorts, answers the obvious question without a word. If your limb difference is in an arm or hand, a photo of you cooking, cycling or holding a pint shows how little it gets in the way. Prefer people to get to know you first? A good head-and-shoulders photo is just as valid, and you can share more later.
In the words, give people something to talk about besides your limb: the football team you suffer for, the dog, the allotment, the trip you are saving for. One line such as “below-knee amputee since 2019, still slower than I would like on stairs” says plenty, and shows you are relaxed about it.
Planning a first date with a prosthetic
A little forward planning keeps the evening about the two of you. Think about how far you will walk, where you can sit down, and what you will do if your residual limb starts to ache by nine o'clock.
Tell your date about any of it if you want to. It usually makes things easier for both of you, and it is a good early sign of how they handle the practical side of your life.
- Somewhere with seating near the door and not too many stairs
- Shoes and clothes you can move in comfortably
- A plan for getting home if your residual limb starts to ache
- Time to rest built into anything that involves walking
- A video chat beforehand, if a face-to-face meeting feels like a lot
- Your own transport, so you can leave whenever you like
A word about devotees
Some people go looking for amputees because of the amputation rather than the person, and amputee dating can attract them. If someone's questions keep circling back to your limb, or they ask for photos of your residual limb early on, you are entitled to stop replying.
Blocking someone stops all contact straight away. You can also report them to the support team, who are on hand day and night.
Some of the people you could be talking to
These are real members. Create a free profile to see more and send a first message.
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ID verified nikki, 60
Coventry
i love the great outdoors enjoy exploring different places would love some company
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Royhanch, 61
Wolverhampton
Hey there! I’m a 6ft 1in gent from Wolverhampton who’s ready to find that special someone. Cooking up a storm in the kitchen and enjoying a good film are some of my favourite pastimes. Being a wheelchair user hasn’t slowed me down, and I’m always up for an adventure. Let’s grab a drink and see where the conversation takes us!
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Niknok, 37
Eastbourne
I’m a bit of a nerd, I like lord of The rings & the hobbit films. I enjoy long talks & meeting each other, being challenged intellectually. I love hanging out with my family & best friends. I love bantering each other.. being kind & sweet is always a good thing too
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IntriguingCanary676, 38
Maidstone
I love animals, theatre, music and helping others.
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RubyWriterB699D7, 59
Tunbridge Wells
Hey there! I'm a friendly 59-year-old who enjoys cooking and exploring the outdoors. I have a great sense of humour, and I'm all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s friendships or something more. If you love pets and music, we might just be the perfect match for some fun adventures together!
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Caspian21, 65
Stoke-on-trent
At 62, I believe life is too short not to enjoy every moment. With a charming sense of adventure and a love for good music and films, I’m here looking for a female companion who’s as eager to explore as I am. Whether it’s whipping up a delicious meal together or sharing stories over a drink, I promise to bring a bit of fun and flair into our lives. So, if you fancy a laugh and a new adventure, let’s see where this goes!
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Adele, 34
Ely
cats friendS and family talkig 2 friends and talking my friends dog out
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langy1978, 48
Stourbridge
Hey there, I’m a 48-year-old gentleman with a love for adventure and a heart full of stories. Standing at 5ft 7in and sporting a couple of tattoos, I enjoy a night out, indulging in great food and even better company. If you’re someone who’s ready to explore life’s pleasures, be it a romantic dinner or a spontaneous trip, let’s see where this journey takes us. Are you up for some fun?
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Stacer88, 37
Walsall
I like the movies and listening to music I like to laugh and cook for guests
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FunnyDreamer42d79d, 38
Snodland
having fun and doing new things. I like to go new places and try new things .I also enjoy listening to music
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Shandra, 51
Cardiff
If you’re looking for a dynamic partner who can light up your world, look no further! I’m not just about deep conversations; I’m all for spontaneous adventures and discovering what life has to offer. I'm hard of hearing, but I promise, I listen with my heart. Let’s see where this journey takes us—are you in for the ride?
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Familyman, 57
Rubery
Playing with my twin boys and doing DIY and gardening on my house.
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Dating again after an amputation
If your amputation is recent, dating may sit low on the list for a while, and that is fine. When you are ready, start small: a profile with a couple of lines, a few conversations with no plans to meet. The Limbless Association offers peer support across the UK if you would like to talk to other amputees first.
When you do start chatting, remember the other person is probably nervous too. A light first message about something in their profile is all it takes.
Dating an amputee
If the person you like is an amputee, let them decide when to tell the story. “What happened?” is rarely a good opening line, however curious you are. Treat a prosthetic like any personal equipment: admire it if they show it off, but do not touch it uninvited. If a residual limb gets sore after a long day, a walk might turn into a sit-down, and that says nothing about how the date is going.
Further down the line there may be practical things that are new to you: a leg leaning against the bedside table, a shower stool, a spare liner in the bag. Take your cue from them. If they are matter-of-fact about it, you can be too. Ask questions when you are curious, and listen to the answers.
Amputee dating questions
Is there an amputee dating site in the UK?
Yes: Disability Dates welcomes amputees and people with limb difference from all over the UK. Joining costs nothing, and you decide how much to say about your amputation and when.
When should I tell someone I'm an amputee?
Whenever you feel ready. Some people put it in their profile or photos so it is out in the open; others mention it in conversation. There is no wrong time, though telling them before you meet usually makes the first date easier.
Should I wear my prosthetic on a first date?
Wear whatever lets you relax and get around comfortably. If that means leaving the leg at home and using crutches or a chair, that is fine.
What if someone seems more interested in my amputation than in me?
Trust your instincts. You do not owe anyone photos or explanations. Block them so they can no longer contact you, and report them from inside the site.
Is there an amputee dating app?
There is no separate app to install: the site runs in your phone's browser. Pin it to your home screen if you want it to feel like an app.
What should I know about dating an amputee?
Mostly the same things as dating anyone. Let them choose when to talk about their limb, do not touch their prosthetic without asking, and be relaxed if a long walk turns into a sit-down.
Is it for upper-limb amputees and congenital limb difference too?
Yes. Anyone living with limb loss or limb difference is welcome, whether it is an arm or a leg, recent or from birth.