Epilepsy dating in the UK, with nothing to hide and no need to rush
Well controlled, newly diagnosed or still finding the right medication: meet UK singles who will hear the word seizure and simply ask what they should do.
An epilepsy dating site that keeps things in perspective
Epilepsy is mostly invisible, which makes dating oddly complicated. You can go weeks without a seizure, so when do you mention it? And if you do, will the other person panic, or start treating you like glass? On Disability Dates the people you meet are living with disabilities and conditions of their own, so a diagnosis is one fact among many rather than a reason to back away.
The practical side still matters. Medication times, a lift instead of driving, an early night before a big day: these are part of your life, and a good partner will fit around them without fuss.
Dating with epilepsy: the everyday side
Epilepsy covers many kinds of seizure, and two people with the same diagnosis can lead very different lives. Some go years without one. Others have small focal seizures that a stranger would never notice, such as a few seconds of staring or a sudden odd taste. Most people keep a routine that holds things steady: tablets at the same times every day, decent sleep, and a good feel for their own triggers. A phone alarm handles an evening dose as easily in a restaurant as at home, and swallowing a tablet at the table draws less attention than checking a text.
Medication can bring side effects of its own, such as tiredness, a patchy memory, or feeling flat for a while after a change of dose. None of that says anything about who you are, and a partner who knows about it will not take it personally. After a seizure, many people need sleep and quiet more than company, so it is worth agreeing early on that you may head home, or not reply until the next day.
As a relationship becomes serious, have a word with your GP or epilepsy specialist nurse. Some epilepsy medicines and some kinds of hormonal contraception affect each other, and some medicines need careful planning before a pregnancy. Never stop or change a medicine on your own; they can talk you both through the options.
When and how to mention your epilepsy
In your profile
One line, such as "I have epilepsy, it is well managed, ask me anything", filters out the wrong people before you have spent any time on them.
In conversation
Once you have swapped a few messages and like each other, it can come up naturally, often when you explain why you will not be driving.
Before you meet
If your seizures are not fully controlled, it is kind to both of you to say so before the first date, along with what to do if one happens.
Seizure first aid you can send a date
Most people have never seen a seizure, and the fear comes from not knowing what to do. A short message with the basics turns that fear into a plan. These steps are for a tonic-clonic seizure; add anything specific to you, such as how long you usually take to recover.
Epilepsy Action and the Epilepsy Society both publish fuller first aid guides that are easy to share.
- Stay calm, note the time, and move anything hard out of the way
- Cushion the head with something soft
- Do not hold the person down or put anything in their mouth
- When the jerking stops, roll them onto their side and stay with them
- Call 999 if it lasts more than five minutes, or if a second seizure follows
Who you could meet
Real members around the UK. Your free profile unlocks the rest.
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ID verified Dizzigoth, 65
Stoke-on-trent
Basically, I'm a music-loving Elder Goth. Music is soooo important to me. I'm happiest at a live gig. I love to hop on a train with my little chariot & visit other cities or even countries (not managed this for quite a few years) I would love someone special in my life again but even a good music-loving friend would be great. I can't handle racism, intolerance of any kind. I need an intelligent man to get me to use my brain more than I currently do, my illnesses definitely don't help, I have rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, scolio/kyphosis, the worst pain is in my lower back where I have spinal stenosis & the bottom looks like a pile of Jenga after it's tumbled. My knees won't completely straighten either due to arthritis but I hide them with flowing goth skirts. I can still dance after a few glasses of anaesthetic. My pain relief is totally inadequate. I think that's enough for now?
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ID verified Bebob, 51
Glasgow
I’m 51 years old, short, but regularly get told I look young for my age (the photos are a couple of years, and a few pounds out of date, but they are still me). I guess in some ways, I am still young at heart. I grew up in the 90s and have spent a lot of time in clubs and partying and that is no longer my thing. Looking for someone who wants to get to know me like I want to get to know them. I write; been working on a fantasy book for a couple of years. I like walks and the outdoors, pubs and restaurants, movies, art, theatre, sport, and being true to myself. Open to ideas and suggestions for things to do. I have bipolar disorder and have not been working for a year, so I can’t treat you in the style to which you might have become accustomed! But I’m honest, and romantic and looking for someone to cuddle. See you down the line.
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Pauliejohn5, 54
Dymchurch
I enjoy travelling reading and good company just want to find someone normal ish to enjoy life with
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RubyWriterB699D7, 59
Tunbridge Wells
Hey there! I'm a friendly 59-year-old who enjoys cooking and exploring the outdoors. I have a great sense of humour, and I'm all about building meaningful connections, whether it’s friendships or something more. If you love pets and music, we might just be the perfect match for some fun adventures together!
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Shandra, 51
Cardiff
If you’re looking for a dynamic partner who can light up your world, look no further! I’m not just about deep conversations; I’m all for spontaneous adventures and discovering what life has to offer. I'm hard of hearing, but I promise, I listen with my heart. Let’s see where this journey takes us—are you in for the ride?
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Littlejock62, 64
Gobowen
Non judgementl, easy going, curious open to anything
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Familyman, 57
Rubery
Playing with my twin boys and doing DIY and gardening on my house.
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Adele, 34
Ely
cats friendS and family talkig 2 friends and talking my friends dog out
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Stacer88, 37
Walsall
I like the movies and listening to music I like to laugh and cook for guests
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BraveBossjbbgab, 41
Luton
I’m a loving, loyal, and honest woman who believes a relationship should be built on trust, respect, and good communication. I enjoy spending quality time together, having a laugh, and supporting each other through both the good times and the difficult ones.
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Racheal94, 32
Leigh-on-sea
What makes me happiest is spending time with my family and friends, having a good laugh and making people smile. I love comedy, especially Ricky Gervais and After Life, and I enjoy telling jokes and having a bit of banter. I also like going out for lunch, enjoying a nice cup of tea and spending quality time with people I care about. I’m happiest when I can be myself, have a laugh and enjoy the little things in life. I’d love to meet someone I can share laughs, good times and new experiences with.
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Happylady, 48
Chatham
I am friendly. I come from Slovakia. My English level is not very good, if you don't mind I would be great.
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First dates that work around epilepsy
Pick somewhere you can reach easily without driving, at a time that does not cut into your sleep. If tiredness or alcohol are triggers for you, a daytime coffee or lunch beats a late night in a bar, and nobody needs to know why unless you want to tell them.
If flashing or flickering lights affect you, steer clear of clubs and some gig venues, and say so when you are choosing a film or a show. Keep your medication with you, and let a friend know where you are going.
Dating someone with epilepsy
Ask what their seizures look like, because not every seizure involves falling and shaking. Some people stare blankly for a few seconds; others wander, fiddle with their clothes, or seem confused and do not answer. Find out what usually happens, how long they take to come round, and whether they have a seizure plan from their doctor or nurse. Then you will know when to simply stay with them and when to call for help.
After that, relax. Most days epilepsy sits in the background, and checking whether they have taken their tablets or treating them as fragile wears thin quickly. Offer lifts without making them a favour, and let them be the expert on their own condition. If a seizure does happen in front of you, stay close and tell them calmly what happened when they come round. Many people remember nothing of the seizure itself, and a steady, familiar voice makes waking up confused far less frightening.
Epilepsy dating questions
Is there an epilepsy dating site in the UK?
Yes, and you are looking at it. People with epilepsy are welcome on Disability Dates, along with singles who have other disabilities and long-term conditions, all across the UK. Creating a profile is free.
Should I tell matches about my epilepsy?
That is entirely up to you. It is your health information. It is often easier to mention before meeting, especially if seizures are not fully controlled.
What if I have a seizure on a date?
It helps if your date already knows the basics of seizure first aid, which is why it is worth sharing them beforehand. Afterwards, take the time you need to recover. Someone worth seeing again will understand.
I cannot drive. Will that put people off?
Not the right people. Choosing somewhere on a bus or train route, or near home, makes it a non-issue.
Is there an epilepsy dating app?
You do not need one. Disability Dates works in any phone browser, so there is nothing to download. Put an icon for it beside your other apps and your messages are a tap away.
Can I drink alcohol on a date if I have epilepsy?
That depends on your seizures and your medication, so ask your GP or epilepsy nurse what is sensible for you. Lots of people stick to one drink or a soft drink, and you never need to explain your order to a date.
Is it for people who are newly diagnosed?
Yes. Whether you were diagnosed last month or as a child, and whichever kind of epilepsy you live with, you are welcome.
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